Bev Bradburn-Stern, M.Ed., LPC

Practice Focus


Counseling

Individual Adults and Children
Life throws many challenges along the path. Moving through changes, adapting to new realities, getting unstuck in tough passages requires expanding understanding and capacities.

Family Transitions
Where’s the blueprint? Becoming the Harbor, good beginnings, role confusions, merging traditions.
Solo Parenting Stress, juggling roles, uncertainty, exhaustion, single with children.
Co-Parenting Post Divorce, building upon what’s possible, coping with what’s not.
Stepping into Parenting Another’s Child, avoiding the quicksand, becoming while not replacing.
Acquiring a Stepparent, not the fairly tale version.

Divorce Decisions Consultation
Moving forward on a decision to divorce or responding to another’s decision to divorce introduces unfamiliar, painful, threatening, and perplexing territory. FIRST STEPS are critical in what comes next and what is possible later.
* Ability to maintain control of YOUR process
* Alternatives to the traditional WIN/LOSE use of court
* Understanding the scope of decisions/requirements
* Controlling costs on lots of levels

Divorce Mediation

The PROCESS of achieving a divorce is AS important as the settlement reached. The traditional adversarial approach creates winners and losers, usually leaving additional but unnecessary scars beyond just higher costs. Presenting competing realities and digging deeper and deeper trenches to dodge emotional grenades rarely produces any winner wanting to celebrate. Mediation does not replace critical legal counsel, but involves legal counsel in an alternative capacity that protects, informs and coaches, allowing a neutral mediator to create an atmosphere conducive to more creative and ultimately more satisfying resolutions with much greater chances of success going forward.

Parenting Plan Development/Modifications

Parenting post divorce across two households with residual feelings associated with the divorce is a recognized challenge but one courts want determined prior to final divorce orders. Custody and parenting time divisions are just the surface. Critical decision-making authority, developmental considerations, distance and financial realities are some of the additional factors that require attention.

The best Parenting Plans must also tackle the fact that circumstances for both children and parents will change and change and change. WHEN and IF to involve the court in modifying plans to better address changing needs will be an additional consideration.

Collaborative Divorce Practice

Divorce is second after death of a spouse as the most stress-producing event. It creates a sense of crisis for individual and family, while demanding legally-binding decisions. While the divorce is occurring on many levels — emotional, parental, community, financial — the legal process can become inappropriately dominant. Collaborative Divorce Practice recognizes that an interdisciplinary approach brings other needed support, perspectives, and capacities to explore ways to move forward. Critical supports brought at a critical time provide a more comprehensive process that better assures a fair and satisfactory outcome.

Divorce Coaching
Navigating through the emotional minefield of divorce while making significant decisions that impact your way forward is no easy task. Recognizing your needs, communicating them effectively and venting productively is where a coach can help. Licensed professionals with years of experience working with people and families in crisis, who appreciate the weight of anger, fear, resentment, plus interpersonal dynamics provide timely support and clarity on ways to move forward despite that weight.

Child Specialist
Many factors should be considered in planning for children in the post divorce family. Understanding child development’s impact, personality strengths and vulnerabilities, plus sibling dynamics are just some. When, how, should the child’s perspective be sought without burdening the child with adult responsibilities? Licensed professionals experienced and skilled in working with children can best assist in answers to those questions and in providing an age appropriate process. Their consultation with parents adds critical information for consideration.